ADHD and Marriage--Are They Compatible?

People suffering from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder represent a rapidly growing slice of the American population, and this has far-reaching implications for society as a whole.

Individuals married to a person with undiagnosed ADHD may contend with severe communication problems, according to psychiatrist Dr. Jennie Byrne, and often those problems can’t be resolved alone.

Byrne discussed her personal experiences and insights during a November 5 interview with Anna Riley of Rosen Law Firm, sharing tips on how couples can learn to live with an ADHD diagnosis. Riley, who works with Charlotte divorce lawyers, uncovered the mystery and myths surrounding the disorder.

“The spouse that has ADHD—they may do things related to being distracted while they’re talking to the other person. For example, they might seem like they’re not really listening… their mind might be going elsewhere,” says Byrne.

Often people who suffer from ADHD have issues remembering little details and managing time, according to Byrne, which can create several small conflicts within a marriage.

“Over time, [small conflicts] can really build up into large conflicts and serious problems in the relationship,” says Byrne. “It’s very common that ADHD in adults goes undiagnosed or misdiagnosed… we’re still learning a lot about ADHD; we didn’t even used to think that it happened in adults.”

Byrne also suggests that the impulsivity and distractability issues of ADHD can cause issues within a marriage. Receiving an accurate ADHD diagnosis for the spouse who’s suffering can improve the chances that a marriage will be successful and may lower the likelihood of divorce.

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